What's Your Conflict Style?
Discover how you handle disagreements with 12 real-life scenarios. Based on the Thomas-Kilmann framework, adapted for personal relationships.
The Chore Imbalance
You've had a long week. You come home to find your partner has left the kitchen in a mess for the third day in a row, despite agreeing to handle it.
The 5 conflict styles
Based on the Thomas-Kilmann model, which maps conflict behavior along two dimensions: assertiveness (your needs) and cooperativeness (their needs).
Competing
The Boundary Guardian
High assertiveness, low cooperativeness. You protect your needs directly.
Collaborating
The Synergy Builder
High assertiveness, high cooperativeness. You seek win-win solutions.
Compromising
The Pragmatic Partner
Moderate on both. You split the difference and move on.
Avoiding
The Harmonious Peacekeeper
Low assertiveness, low cooperativeness. You sidestep and give space.
Accommodating
The Devoted Supporter
Low assertiveness, high cooperativeness. You prioritize the relationship.
Frequently asked questions
What are the 5 conflict styles?+
Competing, Collaborating, Compromising, Avoiding, and Accommodating. Everyone uses all five, but most have a default under stress.
How is this different from the official TKI?+
Our questions are scenario-based and focused on personal relationships, using real-life situations instead of abstract statements.
Is there a 'best' conflict style?+
No. All five are useful in different situations. The goal is flexibility — choosing the right style for each situation.
Can my style change depending on who I'm with?+
Yes. People often use different styles with different people. Your default is what you fall back on under stress.
Is my data private?+
Yes, 100%. The quiz runs entirely in your browser. No answers are sent to any server.
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