How Much Is This Conflict Costing You?

Not just legal fees — the real cost includes your time, health, productivity, and relationships. See the full picture, then compare it to what resolution would actually cost.

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What type of dispute is this?
How long has this conflict been going on?

How much time are you spending on this per week?

3 hrs
5 hrs

How much money have you spent so far?

Legal fees, therapy, mediation, filing fees, moving costs combined

How has this conflict affected you?

Sleep
Work / productivity
Other relationships
Your approximate hourly earnings (optional)

Used to estimate the dollar value of time spent. Skip if you prefer.

If nothing changes, how much longer do you expect this to last?

Frequently asked questions

How does the calculator work?+

You enter conflict details: duration, time, money, and impact. The calculator estimates total cost across financial, time, productivity, and health categories — then projects future costs and compares to resolution.

Are the estimates accurate?+

Financial and time costs are from your inputs. Productivity uses 15-35% loss from presenteeism research. Health uses $1K-$2.8K/year from sleep disruption studies. All conservative and clearly labeled.

What counts as 'time spent' on a conflict?+

Active time (calls, emails, legal research) plus rumination (thinking, worrying, venting). Research shows 2.8 hrs/week average, but personal disputes can be 10-20+ hrs/week.

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